“It’s not about food or weight…It’s about feeling unsafe in the world. It’s about feeling like we can’t trust anyone, not even ourselves. The Eating Disorder becomes “the reliable one”.
It’s about the feelings we can’t verbalize, that can’t be expressed through words so we try to “say” it with our bodies.
It’s about an extreme, intense feeling of being inadequate. Like nothing we do or say or feel is “right”. “Not thin enough” often means something more painful to admit. That we are not enough. full stop.
It’s about feeling overwhelmed by life. Like nothing makes sense. Nothing is simple. The Eating Disorder gives us a sense of calm…to an outsider our life may look like it is in absolute chaos but it gives us the false sense of security we so desperately need. Problems that seem too big and complicated to deal with, feelings that are uncomfortable to sit with; the Eating Disorder provides us with simple, concrete answers to our distress. Our bodies are the problem and we need to fix the problem by losing weight.
It’s about needing to feel loved and comforted but feeling unworthy of real love and comfort. It’s about hating having needs and desires. For some of us, needs make us feel greedy and selfish. For some of us, having needs means we can easily get hurt if those needs are not met. For some of us, we don’t believe we deserve to have our needs met. We try to convince ourselves that we don’t need anything by avoiding food, one of our greatest primal needs.”
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Awesome it made me cry, if only my family would read it.xx
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I made me cry too.
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Reblogged this on Somethingg Profound.
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I love this!
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Me too! I’ve always hated the blanket “It’s about control” answer. This is so much better.
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Definitely. I love that someone else can put into words, what I generally can’t.
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Exactly. ^_^
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Yep, I definitely agree. I hate the fact that we keep trying to simplify eating disorders so much. Seeing as they have the highest relapse and death rates of all mental illnesses, you would think that people would realize that there are very complex diseases and that there is no easy answer.
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Absolutely, and you make great points. Obviously something isn’t working with the current treatment and understanding of eating disorders with the relapse and death rates that exist.
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Yeah, the control thing cannot hit the depth that this does. This is far better.
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This is absolutely phenomenal. Exactly what I feel and what I do. Spot on its almost creepy…in a good way!! Thank you for this!! ❤
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Right??
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Reblogged this on The Sound of Ed's Voice and commented:
Spot on. This is Ed’s voice. This is why the battle is so difficult. Why people do not understand why we don’t want to give it up; the only consistent thing in our lives.
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Reblogged this on 'Pirouettes and Pasta' and commented:
Words couldn’t ring truer. Of course there is a lot more to it and everybody is different but in each case, these words express just the outer of the issue.
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Couldn’t agree more with the comment about the ‘ control’ line … what a load of rubbish! ha
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