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Self-imposed Poverty



A friend posted this image on her Facebook wall of the present she just wrapped.

It made me think of this trend that’s popular right now, to intentionally make or buy things that look cheap.

I like to watch interior design shows, and it amazes me how many times someone will buy furniture pieces that, to me, look like you should be able to get them for $20 or dig them out of a dumpster, but it’s considered trendy.

Growing up, we didn’t have a lot of money. Getting something new that wasn’t a hand-me-down or a used donation was the best feeling in the world.

I don’t understand why you would want to buy things that look like you can’t afford to buy things. I also hate aging furniture. When you’ve never owned a new piece of furniture, and all your pieces are ACTUALLY aged and showing wear and tear, you want things that look new and beautiful.

But apparently when you have the money for things, you want to buy or make pretty furniture look old and used?? I just don’t get it.

Another trend along these lines is with wrapping presents. It’s considered artsy to wrap with brown paper and twine/string. However, when you grew up wrapping presents in paper bags and the Sunday comics, all it says to me is “I couldn’t afford wrapping paper.”

I also know a lot of people like homemade gifts. And while I enjoy making things for others, I’d rather buy presents because I never could afford to, and because there were many years my parents couldn’t afford to buy things for us, so I associate homemade gifts with poverty.

I think it’s interesting how your experiences color the way you view different things like these.


“What do you want for your birthday?”


I don’t actually ever get asked this because no one buys me birthday presents. But if someone did, and I was being honest, this is what I would want.

  • A battery for my scale
  • More laxatives
  • Effective diet pills
  • A loaf of bread, preferably one with Parmesan and garlic baked inside.
  • A variety of cheeses to eat with that bread
  • ALL the (vegetarian) Chinese food
  • Bendy straws
  • A cake and some ice cream that no one else knows about
  • Time alone to eat (and purge) all this food.
  • Not to have to spend any family time feeling awkward about myself and feeling like I’m being watched or judged and not comparing myself to my sisters
  • Gift cards for Barnes and Noble so I can get new books on my Nook.

So basically, out of 11 items, one of them is “normal” and healthy. But those are truly what I would ask for if I could be honest.

A Day of Gifts


Last week, I found a fellow blogger offering to send out free bracelets, and I took her up on the offer. My bracelet came in the mail today!


This was definitely the best mail I’ve received in a long time.

Also, this evening when my brother got home from work, he surprised me with flowers! It made me cry. Aren’t they beautiful?